I have recently been in a spot where I have to figure out if my feelings have actually changed for my partner or if I am just depressed right now and my true feelings are clouded. Sometimes I look at him and I think hes so prescious I dont want him anywhere but beside me and sometimes I think that I want to be alone or with someone that perhaps will better suit me. I worry that he is selfish and he will not outgrow that. I have concerns about him listening to me in the way that I need to be listened to. We have had several discussions about these needs I have and the thoughts I have about him being selfish. He doesnt agree that he is selfish but his actions show otherwise daily. So I have to wait to see if it changes and feel dissatisfied in the mean time or learn to accept that he is selfish. I dont want to be with someone selfish so that only leaves one option. How do people come to realise that their actions are selfish. I am not here to point out things again and again, I want it to be a self realization because then it is more powerful. But my concern is that he will not have this self-realization.

Has anyone been in this or a similar spot? Any ideas? Comments? Anything you share would be greatly appreciated.