Theory of personal nonsymettrical balance.
 I used to live in Huntsville, Al
this is where the theory starts.
I was sitting at Monte Sano Mountain Park at  a garden house that looks much like a tea room.
In the garden house is an open round window, no pane. That particular day, someone had balanced a tree branch in the round window, concept of assymmetrical or nonsymmetrical balanced began to form in my mind. Tree branches are assymmetrical. They are not equal on each side. And yet this branch was perfectly balanced.
 Move forward in time 10 years, I was watching a sports show, people were snow skiing, this of course requires balance, the amazing  part of the show to me was a fellow who had only one leg, skiing perfectly balanced. boom.... another case of nonsymmetrical balance, or assymetrical balance.
 I remembered the concept at that time about the tree branch. This is the thought I got from this....
 No person is perfect, only Jesus was... Thus each person is a little dysfunctional, or personally nonsymmetrical in their ways. It occurred to me that it is the people who find their balance in the midst of their dysfunction. in their window of their world that find their personal nonsymmetrical balance. And it is those who find their nonsymmetrical balance are the ones who shine.
Each person must find their own unique balance, for each persons dysfunction is different from any other person, and their window of the world, or envirnment is different also.
That is why perfectionist find it so impossible to achieve happiness. They see other people shine, and want to shine too, but so often they try to copy the form and not the spirit of the person. For the perfectionist is trying to balance like another, which won't work, for their dysfunction is unlike any other, as all humans are truly unique, in their qualities and their dysfunction.
  For the perfectionist to shine, they will have to not imitate the form and balance o;f another,. but to find their own balance and whatever form that takes for them , then they will truly shine in their own way.
                                           Hope this helps, Kandy